Trust
Personal Essays & Reflections Kate Sjostrand Personal Essays & Reflections Kate Sjostrand

Trust

Sometimes trust shows up in the smallest moments. Not in grand declarations or promises, but in knowing you can tell someone the truth without fear of judgment, disappointment, or strings attached. Last night, Dawna reminded me just how much that kind of trust means.

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Apparently, Talking Isn't Always Helping

Apparently, Talking Isn't Always Helping

I fucking love this woman, and when she's frustrated, every instinct inside me wants to fix things. Turns out, sometimes helping isn't solving. Sometimes helping isn't talking. Sometimes helping is finding some shade, drinking some fucking water, and shutting the hell up. Apparently, loving someone means learning that too.

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The World Feels Right Again

The World Feels Right Again

I pointed Nyx north because the woman I love needed me. Through darkness, wet pavement, thunderstorms, and entirely too many fucking deer, the mission was simple: arrive. And when I finally pulled into that parking lot and saw Dawna running toward me with that huge smile on her face, everything changed. I was there. She was there. We were together. And the world felt right again.

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Bare to the Elements
Personal Essays & Reflections Kate Sjostrand Personal Essays & Reflections Kate Sjostrand

Bare to the Elements

I spent fifty-four years learning how to protect my heart. I built walls, learned to stand alone, and eventually convinced myself I preferred it that way. Then Dawna came along, and somehow the walls disappeared. Now she's gone back to Colorado, the house feels fucking empty, and I'm discovering the other side of letting someone completely into your heart.

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She Stayed
Personal Essays & Reflections Kate Sjostrand Personal Essays & Reflections Kate Sjostrand

She Stayed

She was supposed to leave. Instead, she read what I'd written, saw that my heart was hurting, and stayed. Just a few more days, but sometimes love isn't about grand gestures. Sometimes it's simply looking at someone you care about and choosing them. And I'm still learning what the fuck it feels like to be chosen.

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Seven Oysters
Personal Essays & Reflections Kate Sjostrand Personal Essays & Reflections Kate Sjostrand

Seven Oysters

I spent the hours before proposing trying to understand why I was so fucking nervous when I already knew her answer. Then I stood in front of Dawna, trembling, said every word I'd been carrying for her, and asked her to marry me. She said yes. The oysters nearly didn't survive the occasion, but apparently even the universe wasn't going to fuck this one up.

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The Two Most Important Women in My Life

The Two Most Important Women in My Life

Dawna came to town, Nyx finally came back to life, and somehow I ended up crawling through Indian Market traffic with a clutch designed by Satan himself. Somewhere between the sore hand, stupid drivers, approaching rain, and a change of plans, I realized something else: the two most important women in my life are finally back where they belong.

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The Best Laid Plans

The Best Laid Plans

Sometimes the best weekends are the ones where absolutely nothing goes according to plan. A delayed motorcycle seat, a brutal ride across Colorado, missed events, and a chance conversation around a circle of folding chairs reminded me that life has a habit of changing the destination while you're still focused on the map.

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Forever

Forever

Sometimes the people who think they know your story know the least about it. While searching for what might become our forever home, an unexpected text dredged up old assumptions, old accusations, and old ghosts. Instead of reminding me of the past, though, it reminded me just how far Dawna and I have come, and how lucky I am to be building a future with the woman I love.

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